I have never celebrated Valentines Day. I think it’s silly.

But if I’m being totally honest here, I only think it’s silly because I never get anything.

Still, I do believe that it is just a marketing ploy.

Restaurants are all overbooked, florists jack up their prices – you know how it goes…

However it’s also a day where a lot of us wonder if we are going to receive anything from either that special someone, our significant other, or the romantic notion of a secret admirer (yes, I watch too many romantic films).

Sometimes I think that a day like Valentines Day, with all of the commercial hype surrounding it, inadvertently sets us up for disappointment.

I don’t think I’ve ever received anything on Valentines Day. Which is totally fine. It is after all, just another day.

But with all of the chatter surrounding the day, it does make you wonder of anyone is thinking of you. Sometimes the day can be downright depressing for some of us. Because we are seeking that validation from an outside source as to whether or not we are cared about.

Whilst I do think it’s just another day, I am not immune to the marketing ploys surrounding this annual supposed celebration of love.

I am secretly living in hope that a bunch of flowers will arrive on my doorstep on Friday from some non-existent secret admirer. I think a lot of women harbour this untold desire.

In fact, just last week, I opened my front door one morning to find a beautiful little cactus in a glass fishbowl of sorts, sitting at my front door.

It was wrapped in a pink ribbon, with a note attached.

My heart skipped a beat as I turned the card over to see who had indeed left this gift for me on my doorstep.

With my hands trembling I excitedly read the note.

“Dear Amy, ……. Love, Jenna”

A wave of both gratitude and disappointment swept over me.

“Awww! That’s so sweet!” was my initial thought.

It was from my neighbours 18 year old daughter who happens to be a florist.

Then a sigh, realising there was no secret admirer after all.

Then I had another thought.

Why are we so taken by these little gestures?

Does it come down to what I mentioned earlier, validation?

Everyone wants to feel loved, cared for, and appreciated, yet the real gift we can give to ourselves is self appreciation. Caring for ourselves, and most importantly, loving ourselves.

But it is nice to know that someone is thinking of you, and sometimes these little gestures really are magical.

I’m very old fashioned (which I seen to have mentioned in a few of my recent articles – I guess I’m trying to explain my little ways). So my old fashioned advice to the men out there, is that if you do have that special someone in your life, those little gestures mean a lot. And my old fashioned advice to the women out there? Your man wants to feel appreciated too. In fact, I think men are even more appreciative of those little gestures. The day isn’t only about women – as much as we might like to think it is. A lot of pressure is put on men to shower the woman in their life with tokens of affection. So don’t forget about looking after your beau as well.

So for me personally, whilst it would be nice to receive something this Valentines Day (and if I had someone that I secretly admired, I would be sending them something too), I will treat it as the day it actually is – Friday…

….while secretly hoping, like the hopeless romantic I am, with my wild imagination, that a limousine filled with roses and balloons will show up to my home or office, where the chauffeur will get out of the car, blindfold me, drive me to a secret location at some secluded beach where a table for two will be set and Ryan Gosling is waiting there for me….lol.

But either way, I do wish everyone a Happy Valentines Day this Friday, and don’t be concerned over whether or not you get anything.

It really is only another day, and like my neighbour who thoughtfully left me that little plant on my doorstep, it showed me that I AM in someone’s thoughts regardless. And it’s even nicer to know that it was on an insignificant, random Thursday – not just on Valentines Day.

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